Mom has been in the hospital since Monday noon almost, its her third day today. She is a bit stable now and the blood pressure is slowly creeping towards normalcy. This morning it was up to 110/56 which is much better than 70/40 when she was rushed to the emergency room. Numerous tests have been done during these three days and she is constantly on IV fluids to replenish her body. The IV also has something called “dopamine”, which helps in increasing her blood pressure. Since, yesterday they have allowed her to start eating from her mouth, though she is not fond of hospital food. The ICU doctors have asked us to brig some food from home because she needs protein and other nutrients, which will start today at lunch.
She has to be fed every two hours. It’s an awkward ( to say the least) feeling to see mom in this state with tubes sticking out of her hands, oxygen in her nose, catheter for urination in place, and machines displaying variety of numbers monitoring her. All she has become is a number. Her situation is based on those numbers on the screens, the numbers dictate when she goes home, they dictate how long she stays in ICU or what medicine to take.
Her neurologist visited yesterday to check on her and realized that her left side is weaker than the right side and her speech is little impaired.. We already know from the MRI done last week that there was a stroke sometime in the past but he wanted to make sure there is no new stroke. He ordered CAT scan which was done yesterday and we are awaiting the results. Today, we got the news that there are traces of blood in her stool. I am not sure how they are going to tackle that at this point but yesterday the doctor wanted our consent for colonoscopy and endoscopy.
These tests are not pleasant but mummy seems to be in good spirits and seems to be quite fond of the nurses helping her. The community support we have from mine and Mariam’s friends is huge and extremely helpful. At home, its weird for us without mom, especially for Papa whose life for last few years have revolved around taking care of mom. I can see him being down but at the same time as bad as it maybe , this is a small break for him. It’s a break he doesn’t want..
Thank you all for your kind words, help, support and prayers… may you never have to deal wit this disease ever, not even remotely.
mymotherandi 
#1 by Shams Hashmi on September 28, 2011 - 9:32 pm
Dear Anis
I hear about minni khala a few months ago. I was really shocked to know about her. Thanks for updating us using unused Gharaunda. We are praying for her. May Allah grant her the best she deserves. I know it is really difficult for us to see our parents in this condition, but few things are not avoidable. We have to face these types of things and always be prepared.
Convey my salaam to Amir mamu and minni khala. Hope she remembers me.
Allah Hafiz
Shamsi
#2 by Saifi on September 28, 2011 - 11:42 pm
Dear Anis and Rais,
JazakAllah khair for keeping us uptodate. i felt better after talking to you guys last night but couldn’t get to speak to Amir mamu. InshaAllah i will try again when I come back from work.
Please keep this blog updated with minni Khala’s situation.
Salaam to everyone there.
Saifi Bhaiya
#3 by lalitanshumayee on October 6, 2011 - 6:27 pm
dear anis n mariam,luv n wishes.went thru the story.words r ceasing.i just wonder how it happened.everything is opposite to her nature what v have experienced.u know v have spent maximum in college as well as in family i am feeling pain.how is papa?give my regards.i pray GOD be graceful n take away her pains soon.
#4 by Suraiya Sayed on November 20, 2011 - 8:12 pm
Dear Anis, Mariam and the other family members
Did write a long one and when I entered it — the whole thing vanished. I wonder if you can trace it.
Never mind. I pray for your mom. I loved her kindness and wanting to help one and all. Her smile is a Blessing to all. May Allah Bless her with whatever He thinks is best for her. It is all in His hands. The family members are doing their best to survive and helping The Mom get the best attention from one and all in the family.
I pray that all the rest of the members of the family gain strength from Allah to be their for the dear Mom and I know how much you have given in terms of love and time etc. You mom is the kindest person I met. Very patient, caring for each and everyone. Being there for the whole family..
I did write a long note but I am not sure you can trace it down below. Nonetheless, I am praying for your dear and kind mom and hope the rest of the family is blessed with strength in this trying time.
May Allah Bless you all and give you the strength and patience that you deserve.
I hope I can come there to help too. Take care and loads of love to your loving mom and the rest of the family. Your indeed a great family with the super and correct values of life. May Allah Bless all of you and give the strength in these trying times.
Take care and if you need me just yell — I will try to come. Suraiya — Mariam ki Amma!
Sunday, November 20, 2011